The other day I read a brilliant article called “Don’t date a girl who travels.” The piece has been translated into 16 languages because it resonates with so many traveling women.
At first I agreed. The things in the article are eerily accurate. But then I started thinking. Those things are exactly why you should date a girl who travels.
“She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.”
Who wouldn’t want to date a girl that only needs five minutes to get dressed and is always ready to go on an adventure? A girl that doesn’t own a hair dryer or spend a fortune on makeup?
“Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.”
We’re not hard to please. Take us to the local taco-stand, a rustic coffee shop, show us your favorite viewpoint or mountain bike trail. Even a trip to the library would be a lot more fun than a dinner-movie date. And don’t go all out. That’s a turn off. If you’re spending money on us or trying to impress there will be no second date. Unless you have better traveling stories than we do. That is the kind of stuff that impress us. Not a fancy car or watch. We prefer a guy that drives an old rusty truck with some character.
“Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She won’t party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.”
You would date a girl that doesn’t spend money on superficial stuff but rather spend it on travel and new experiences. Yeah, that would suck. Truly.
“Changes are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.”
“Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.”
If you’re looking for a robot, they are available to buy. But if you want a girl with opinions, dreams, goals and passions, then a traveling girl is the way to go. Besides, she won’t bug you to get a “real” job. A traveling girl doesn’t care about how much money you make, as long as you are happy and doing something that you are passionate about.
“Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious of everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.”
If you need to know what every minutes holds then yes, don’t date a girl who travels. We don’t plan ahead. We have commitment issues. We are free-spirited. We are impulsive. But one thing is for sure, life with a girl who travels will never be boring.
“Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate over global issues or social responsibility.”
“She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and won’t care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.”
“I wish my girlfriend was more independent and not so needy.” “I wish I could go out and hang with my buddies without her getting upset.” If I got a dollar every time I heard a guy say that I would be a millionaire. A girl who travels doesn’t need you. We have our own life. But we enjoy your company as long as you are fun, adventurous and don’t try to control us and tell us what we can or cannot do.
“So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And when you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare to keep her. Let her go.”
Because out there is that perfect fit for her. That gets her. That has no need to try to tame a wild horse. That understand that the way to her heart is through her sense of adventure, not through some fancy restaurant you are taking her to in your new car.
The parts highlighted in bold are from “Don’t date a girl who travels” written by Adi who can be found at lovethesearch.com